4.17.2018

Gemma at one month

I enjoyed doing the monthly posts with Ashton and Tanner. It is amazing how often I look back at them to remind myself of baby things. So to continue with Gemma, here is her one month update.

Weight: 8 lbs 4 oz at birth. Dropped to 7 lbs 13 oz at two days old. At one month,10 lbs 5 oz. Hooray for good weight gain! This is especially important with her heart defect. Weight gain is a sign that it's not getting worse.

Height: 21.5 inches at 1 month. She was 19 inches at birth.


Clothing Size: We moved her to 0-3 month clothes last week. When she stretches out, it seems she is already maxing out the length of the clothes. We'll see how long this size lasts.

Daily Schedule: Gemma is pretty predictable. She wakes up between 7 and 8 every morning, eats about every 2-3 hours, naps 3-4 times a day, and does terrific at night. She has slept through the night many times (which led to mastitis for me...). She has never woken up more than once a night since she was born. She goes to bed around 9 or 10 at night and wakes up between 4 and 6 to eat (if she wakes up). Then back to bed until morning. The last few nights, she's slept from 8-9pm to 7am! Maybe, just maybe, we got a kid who likes to sleep. Fingers crossed.

Total diapers we change daily: She seems to be a heavy wetter, which doesn't bode well for cloth but maybe she'll get better. We go through about 6-8 a day.

Total outfits we go through daily: Gemma hasn't had a single blowout yet so she typically wears the same outfit two days in a row. I'm lazy and only want to change her if absolutely necessary. After two days, I switch things up though.

Special Outings: Everywhere... with two older siblings, you don't get the luxury of keeping the baby home all the time. She's gone to Houston several times, library, stores, doctors, church, etc.

Firsts: First everything... she's taken one bath for the whole month (I promise we wipe her down other times). It's tricky because we can't bathe all three at the same time so the idea of doing two rounds of baths sounds miserable and unnecessary.

Eating: She doesn't spit up like the others did, which is nice. My plan was to pump for her as I wanted more freedom with my church calling as well as being able to take Ashton and Tanner out more. But she's so cute and a great eater so I couldn't say no to her. So we're nursing again but we do try to have her take a bottle at least once a day. She does alright with that.

Heart Update: I figured we will be receiving heart updates a lot this year. Here's a little background into Gemma's heart and the defect. No defects were detected during the pregnancy. At birth, a pediatrician examined her in the hospital and detected no issues. We saw our pediatrician two days later and again, no issues were seen/heard. Then, we did a one week check up with the pediatrician and she detected a heart murmur. She referred us to a pediatric cardiologist to have it examined and determined what type of murmur it was. Typically, most children grow out of their murmurs as they are almost always one of two types (ASD or VSD). We headed to the cardiologist two weeks later and discovered Gemma's murmur is NOT one of those two types. It is a type of murmur that is not present at birth but becomes apparent over the first few weeks of life. It's called pulmonary valve stenosis. One of her heart valves doesn't open all the way. This defect can be mild, moderate, or severe. Gemma's defect falls into the moderate category. These defects can worsen in a child up to about one year of age and after that, the defect will remain the same. However, they don't improve or go away. We will see the cardiologist about every 8-12 weeks for the first year or so to monitor and do a repeat Echo. If it doesn't worsen, then we are good to go. If it worsens to the point of "severe," then we discuss surgery. The surgery to repair the valve is done by a balloon pump/dilator through the femoral artery so we're not looking at open heart surgery. That's reassuring. The only long-term effect of this murmur is she will be considered high risk for pregnancy when/if she chooses that later on. The increased blood volume and stress on the heart needs to be monitored throughout the pregnancy but should not cause complications to her or a baby. Her next cardiology appointment is in early June so we'll have more information then. I will admit, all that time studying for anatomy in college is helping a ton at these appointments. It helps having a basic knowledge of the heart when the doctor is explaining things to me.

Sibling love: The big kids love her and ask to hold Gemma a lot. Ashton likes waking her up in the morning and is very sweet to Gemma. Tanner likes giving her kisses, touching her toes, and holding her. Aside from that, Ashton complains about getting less attention so we're trying to deal with that the best we can. Joseph is still taking paternity leave with a couple half days each week. That helps some. I think she is used to leaving Tanner at home whereas now, Tanner comes with her a lot.

Overall, Gemma is a very chill baby. She doesn't love being put down (in swing, bouncer, bed, etc) and prefers to be held. But we are thoroughly enjoying that. All it takes is one look at Ashton or Tanner and we are reminded that before too long, Gemma will be climbing, jumping, and talking back to us.


Monthly Pictures:

Content to sleep wherever and whenever.



3.26.2018

Gemma is here!

After a much longer pregnancy than anticipated, Gemma has arrived. Ashton and Tanner arrived between 37 and 38 weeks so everyone, including my doctor, felt this baby would follow suit. Nope! Born right around 40 weeks!

It was a huge blessing to have her wait a little longer. Due to Joseph's work schedule, we knew it would be extremely difficult to have a newborn plus have him working his turnaround as he would be very limited in vacation/paternity leave. Gemma arrived the week after his long hours stopped. And his mom was here already as we thought the baby would arrive early. His mom was able to watch the kids for us while we were at the hospital.

Here's her birth story. Mainly so I don't forget the details during the fuzzy, sleep-deprived newborn stage.

I had been to the labor and delivery unit around 37 weeks with dehydration from a nasty stomach bug. I was having contractions there but with lots of fluids and medicine, they were able to stop them. This was nothing new. From about 36 weeks on, I would go to bed every night with contractions and then wake up in the morning feeling fine. Every day I thought, "tonight could be it!" It was a long four weeks of thinking that!

On March 14, I woke up around 3 or 4am with contractions ten minutes apart. They were painful enough where I had to work through them. When Joseph woke up around 6:30, they were about seven minutes apart but I told him to head to work as I wasn't sure this was the real deal. By about 9:30, they were five minutes apart so I decided to get a hold of Joseph and have him head home. But I couldn't reach him. I tried everything I could to contact him (aside from calling the emergency number) and he was stuck in meetings so couldn't answer. By 11am, I got desperate as the contractions were getting closer together and harder to breathe through. I called the emergency number at Dow and got in touch. He headed home and we went straight to the hospital. Laboring at home with a four and two year old is no fun either. I didn't want to tell Ashton what was going on in case the contractions fizzled out. So they kept asking for snacks and fun things as I'm struggling through pain. Finally around 11am, I decided it was time for a movie as a special treat.

They examined me at noon and I was 6 cm dilated so they admitted me. That was exciting as I've never made it that far along before. With Ashton, I was not even a cm dilated and with Tanner I was at a 3. My doctor was already in the hospital so he came to my room. When he came ten minutes later, I was at a 7 and they were doing everything they could to hurry up and get me an epidural. To receive an epidural at our hospital, you have to receive IV fluids and have blood work done. This takes time obviously. The nurses and doctor weren't sure I had enough time to do all this but I desperately urged them to try and hurry it along. The doctor felt if I wanted to forego pain meds, he could break my water and I would be at 10 in no time.

I really wanted the epidural so asked him to wait. He gave me some anti-nausea medicine which knocked me out between the contractions. Looking back, I wish I would have known more about this medicine before giving them the okay to administer it. It was really strong and I could barely answer questions to nurses between contractions. I appreciated the "break" between contractions but felt way too out of it for my liking. It did help the nausea as I felt I was going to throw up all the time.

Once the anesthesiologist could start the epidural process, I was at 8 cm. It took a few tries to get a good placement. Then the doctor broke my waters and about 30 minutes later, it was time to push. Baby girl was pretty high so it took a little longer than it did with Tanner but nothing like it did with Ashton. Once Gemma was born, the doctor thought she was over nine pounds. She cried a little bit and then was calm.

After about an hour, they took her and weighed her. Eight pounds, 4 ounces and 19 inches long. Bigger than Tanner by two ounces and bigger than Ashton by a pound. It's probably a good thing she hung on a little longer than her siblings as she would have been a tad smaller.

We've been home just over a week now and I wish I could pause time. She is so little and sweet. She doesn't talk back or make huge messes. And she's very easy to entertain. Gemma seems sleepier than our other two but maybe that's just our lack of memory. She doesn't fuss much and is a great eater. We're happy she's here! I'm happy to be much smaller and back in my normal clothes again. I was so excited to pack up maternity clothes and put that bin away for a long time.

Ashton is thrilled to have a baby sister. Tanner likes to point to her and say, "Baby" or "Sister" and then he continues on with his life. He is a little clingy to me but not a huge difference. I'm grateful Joseph has lots of paternity leave over the next few weeks. He'll be working half days a bunch, which is a lot of help to me. The big kids also have preschool until mid-May so that gives me a little bit of time to finish out teaching this semester. We're so happy to have sweet little Gemma in our family!


Our birthday cake tradition for Gemma.

3.18.2018

Pre-Baby Fun

Prior to Gemma's arrival, we had some fun things happen around our house.
Just past 37 weeks here. Last pregnancy picture I took.

Every year, the wards in our town host a "Back to Beef" activity. After the holidays, we go back to eating beef (after eating turkey and ham for the holidays) by having a huge lunch at a member's property. The night before, people can camp out while they smoke the meat. The property is on the river so there's fishing, canoeing, 4-wheelers, trampoline, tire swings, and lots of other fun things to do. Joseph and Ashton camped again this year and had a blast. Tanner and I went out the morning of the activity and played around a lot. It was wonderful to only have Tanner at home that morning as he slept until 8:45am. We enjoyed getting dirty and eating lots of yummy food.



Joe had his turnaround, which meant he worked from about 4 or 5am to about 7pm every day for four weeks. He got one Saturday off, which was nice. He won't have another one until next spring but that is one is scheduled for about 8 weeks. The nice part is that it is planned so far ahead so I can prepare myself mentally and physically for long days and weeks. We were just grateful Gemma held off until after the turnaround ended by a couple of days. The kids and I enjoyed a lazy few weeks with easy meals, ice cream nights, and a few extra family movie nights.
They're definitely getting better at playing together.
Picking flowers together.
I organized another trip to the local fire department this spring and the kids loved it. Ashton and Tanner enjoyed spraying the water and checking out the fire equipment.




There was a father daughter dance on Valentine's day for our mutual activity at church. Ashton couldn't wait to go and spend the night dancing with Daddy. Tanner enjoyed dancing with a bunch of the young women as well.
Best picture I have. Someone was taking pictures for the night but I haven't seen those yet.

2.13.2018

Winter Fun

Here's a picture recap of the last several weeks:
For Christmas, my sister got us a gift card to a trampoline park. We went once in January and the kids loved every part. On Fridays, they offer a time where only kids 5 and under are allowed and the entire place is open to them. It was a great time!
Loved jumping on the trampolines.
Building together at Home Depot.
We thoroughly enjoyed having my sister come visit again in January before she left Texas. The kids adore her!
A friend from church gave us a candy sushi making kit for Christmas. For FHE one night, we made it. This is Tanner's face after trying to eat it. I'm guessing it was disgusting but the kids loved making it.
My sister, Ashton, and I went to the Crocodile Encounter place and Ashton loved feeding the turtles and holding all the animals.

Learning to make silly faces with Aunt Trescha.
Ashton and I had one more Mommy/Daughter day in Houston before baby sister arrives and Joe's crazy work schedule begins. She decided to go bowling for our activity.
The bowling place was a family fun center so she had a few extra dollars to play games and win a few prizes.
Another Home Depot workshop. Ashton is getting pretty good at hammering. Tanner loves that he is now old enough to participate.
Our nice neighbor brought some lady bug cakes from the store to the kids. They loved them! Sadly, Ashton now thinks I can buy these at the store every week. Too bad! They are pricey.

We had a busy week watching two of our neighbor's kids while the parents went on a cruise. Ashton shared her room with them and it went really well. We also watched their dog so River had a playmate too. We took the kids to the local aquarium and Ashton could have stayed there all day touching the crabs and asking questions.

1.31.2018

Trip to the Frozen Tundra

It's been a little cool in Texas lately. Ashton is tired of it. She complains when it's below 60 degrees. When my grandma passed away and I announced that we would be making a trip to Wisconsin, Ashton didn't want to go. "It's too cold," was her reasoning. We had quite the adventure getting to Wisconsin and once there, Ashton decided the snow wasn't so terrible. However, if you ask her now, she has no desire to go back until the snow is gone and it's warmer. My little Texan girl.

My grandmother was an amazing woman. My grandpa passed away in 1995 and my grandma stayed strong and active for so long. She continued living in their home for many years and I have fond memories of visiting her to bake cookies (but she never let me eat the cookie dough), having cream soda, playing on my grandpa's workbench, filling the bird bath, and playing "accountant" in their basement. She loved seeing our kids and I am sad she won't get to meet our baby girl. I was planning to come in the spring so she could meet her.

She passed away on January 12 and the funeral was the following week. Due to Joseph's hectic work schedule and demand right now, I knew it was going to just be the kids and I traveling. We booked our tickets to leave on Tanner's birthday. The day before our flight, weather predictions suggested a terrible ice storm coming to Houston. The airlines allowed us to change our ticket for no change fee. School districts were closing in preparation for this so I decided to go ahead and change our ticket to the next day. In hindsight, I don't think it made a huge difference as Wednesday was even worse in my opinion.

Our flight was at noon so we left the house at 8am. I was up most the night checking weather forecasts, road conditions, flight schedules, etc. to ensure our flight was leaving. For most of the morning, main highways were closed in Houston. We hit icy patches the whole way there and the roads were empty. We arrived at the airport at 10am and the lines were insane! It took us two hours to drop off our bag and make it through security. By the end of that, I had almost run out of snacks and entertainment for the kids as Tanner was just stuck in the stroller and we couldn't leave our spot in line. We were the last ones to board our plane with five minutes to spare before closing the cabin doors. Picture this: me at 32 weeks pregnant pushing Tanner in the stroller and Ashton on my back in our carrier running full speed through the Houston airport. I'm sure everyone laughed as I ran by but we made it. Good thing I work out every day!

Our flight ended up leaving the gate late so we had to run once more at the Chicago airport to make our connection to Wausau. Then we arrived in Wausau only to discover our luggage never left Houston. Ugh! Thankfully, it showed up the next day with my brother's flight just in time to change into church clothes for the funeral.

The kids enjoyed the snow. Tanner lasted a lot less than Ashton when we would go outside. He wasn't a huge fan of climbing up the sledding hill all the time. Ashton loved sledding and riding the snowmobiles around. We played lots with family and enjoyed our few days there. We left Saturday morning and our flights were much smoother on the way home. Although, I don't think I'll be flying with the three kids by myself this fall. It was exhausting!



1.25.2018

2 Year Old Tanner

Tanner is two! His birthday celebrations were a little crazy due to our last minute travel plans to Wisconsin. I initially planned our trip to be on his birthday but due to weather delays, we were home for his birthday and flew out the next day. Good thing he's two and didn't notice that we didn't have cake on his actual birthday.

Here's some favorites for our two year old!

Favorite book: Anything Daniel Tiger or football related. For Christmas, he received Daniel Tiger 5 minute bedtime stories and that is a favorite.

Favorite toy: Balls, anything with buttons that makes noise, his bike. Tanner isn't too picky with toys. He'll play with almost everything. His ultimate favorite toy is most likely whatever Ashton is trying to hide from him.

Favorite word: He doesn't really say one word more than others. He does like "dog" and will shout it anytime a dog comes by. "Daddy" is another favorite. He probably says about 50-75 words or more and has started putting two words together. Often the phrase includes the word, "no." He loves singing "Wheels on the Bus" and "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes."

Favorite show: He really likes Little Baby Bum with the nursery songs. He sings along to most of them.

Favorite Outing: The park. This was Ashton's favorite too. We visit the park almost every day after naps and he loves climbing and running around.

Favorite food: Anything with a sauce to dip it in. Chicken nuggets, salad with ranch, banana in peanut butter, etc.

Favorite activity: Climbing something around the house. He loves when I forget to lock the closets and he finds new things to climb.

Height: 36 inches, which puts him in the 85 percentile. If the predictions are close, he will be about 6 feet tall. He's slightly taller than Ashton was at 2 years old. But he has short legs. He still wears 12-18 month pants that fit and his 2T pants are long.

Weight: 31 pounds. Two pounds heavier than Ashton was at this age. He's a big kid. 85 percentile for weight as well.

Tanner is an active little boy. He never stops moving unless he's asleep. He is a great sleeper though, which is helpful. Most nights, he sleeps for 11-12 hours and then naps for 2-3 hours each afternoon. He rarely wakes up at night, which is much appreciated considering another baby on the way. We love our little boy!

He thoroughly enjoyed every visit from my sister over the past few months. It was wonderful to have her in town to celebrate his birthday a few days early too.


Trying so hard to blow the candles out.

1.08.2018

Holiday Festivities

We had a wonderful time celebrating Christmas and New Year's last year. It was pretty cold during the break so we did our best to get outside when we could. This snowy and cold winter has definitely confirmed to us that we enjoy living in the South and have no intentions of moving back to a cold state. I'd take a hot and humid summer over a freezing and snowy winter any day.

Ashton helping wrap my stocking gifts that she came up with
Santa came to our house one night.
The preschool program day. Tanner did great standing in front until he saw us in the audience. I ended up sitting with him in front.
Ashton loved the program and did great!
Ashton knew a little bit more about Santa this year but was still pretty oblivious to it all. She knew he came in the middle of the night but that was all. I even wrapped the Santa gift in different wrapping paper but I don't think she would have realized. If you ask her now, she has no clue what Santa brought her versus what she got from family. I'm glad she's not overly into it as it helps her appreciate who got her gifts instead. Her favorite gift is the little kid sewing machine and sewing kit that my parents sent.



Singing Christmas songs together
Tanner loved Christmas morning and was much more into playing with each present than opening them. This appalled Ashton as she was determined to open every present before playing with them. Tanner has really enjoyed the magnatiles that the kids got together and Ashton's scooter.

We went to church Christmas Eve and then laid low that day. We did our traditional movie night with the mattress in the living room. The kids actually laid down/rested for most of the movie. Last year, Ashton was still all over the place during the movie so it was nice to enjoy it this year.

In preparation for Christmas Day dinner at our house, I planned to make a blueberry cheesecake on Christmas Eve. I started it in the afternoon and did a water bath for the first time. I also used a different recipe than my normal "go-to" one. Well, the water bath failed miserably and water got into the pan (despite the multiple layers of foil to keep it out), which made the crust soggy. The rest of the cheesecake was perfect. I was out of cream cheese and it was Sunday night. I knew I wouldn't have enough time on Christmas Day to get it baked and cooled in time for dinner as the stores that were open on Christmas Day didn't open until late morning. I found a few friends who had extra cream cheese and we piled into the van around 8pm to go get them. I set out to make another cream cheese that night but this time, I used my trusty recipe. This recipe requires about 3+ hours of baking. The cheesecake finished right before midnight and the last step of the recipe is to turn up the oven to 500 degrees and bake it for 5-8 minutes just to brown it a little. So I did that like I always do. Well, five minutes in and something on the bottom of the oven started to burn and fill the house with smoke. Smoke alarms starting going off and woke up Joseph and Ashton (Ashton was sleeping in our room already for some random reason). It took us 15 minutes to get the smoke out and the alarms to stop going off. Miraculously, Tanner slept through the whole thing despite the smoke alarm in his room going off too. It was a yummy cheesecake on Christmas day.
The finished cheesecake

Christmas morning was filled with presents and eating crepes. We had a few families over for dinner that night, which was fun. The kids played well and we enjoyed some adult conversation at the dinner table.
Always a satisfaction when your rolls do just what you want them to.

The week between Christmas and New Years was more laid back. I took my gestational diabetes test and passed! Although, I am still anemic so they increased my iron intake for the third time this pregnancy. Ugh... I also was able to go with the church youth to San Antonio for a day. We planned this trip to go to the temple there because the Houston temple is closed for several months due to flooding. It was a long day of lots of driving but well worth it in the end.
The pizza slices where we had lunch with the youth.

For New Year's, we got together with a few families and did a countdown to 7pm. The kids had a blast playing PieFace and some other games. The entire family was asleep well before midnight and I woke up to the fireworks in our neighborhood to remind me that it was the new year.




We're getting back into the swing of things now. BYU-Idaho started this week as well as the kids going back to preschool. Just 6-8 more weeks until our life turns upside down again with baby girl's arrival. I asked the doctor if he would intervene in any way after 39 weeks as Joseph's mom is coming at that point. He laughed and said I won't be making it to 39 weeks given my first two deliveries. We'll see about that.