5.19.2018

Gemma at Two Months!


Weight: 12 lbs 12 oz. Right between Tanner and Ashton in weight.

Height: 23.5 inches. Same as Tanner was. An inch longer than Ashton.

Clothing Size: 0-3 months still.

Daily Schedule: Gemma wakes up around 7am to eat. She stays awake for about an hour to an hour and a half and then naps again. This is a predictable schedule for the most part. She has a hard time napping in the late afternoon/evening so sometimes its two cat naps. Otherwise, she takes 3-4 naps per day. She still sleeps through the night from about 9pm to 7am. I can't recall the last time she woke up in the middle of the night. I'm soaking it in as I'm sure it will change soon enough.

Total diapers we change daily: Cloth diapers started last month! Hooray! I always feel better when I'm not throwing away tons of diapers. This is the earliest I have used cloth on a baby and I always love the cuteness of them.


Total outfits we go through daily: Gemma is not a spitter! So most days she stays in the same outfit. Hooray for less laundry.

Special Outings: Everywhere... I guess her first time at the zoo.

Firsts:Smile! She makes us work hard for a smile but when she does, it's pretty cute. She also coos a lot. Pretty social so far.
The best I can get of her smiling. They're quick ones. She wrinkles up her nose sometimes too.

Eating: Gemma is a good eater. She eats about every three hours or so. Maybe a little closer together in the evening. She doesn't really nurse to sleep much either, which is nice for me.


Heart Update: No further updates on the heart as our next appointment is early June.

Sibling love: Tanner loves to play with her toes and count them. They both continue to like to hold her and give her kisses on the head. Ashton enjoys talking to her and trying to make her smile. Otherwise, the big kids just like to play with all the baby toys.


Monthly Pictures:




Another attempt at a smile

5.09.2018

Springtime

Spring has been busy adjusting to three kids. So far, it's going pretty well. I feel guilty I can't give as much attention to each child but we'll adjust. Here's what we've been up to this spring:

The neighborhood park cut down a big tree and filled in the area with sand. The kids love playing there and bringing their sand toys.
 

Gemma, Ashton, and I headed to Houston one Saturday for the DockDogs event. We went to one in Wisconsin a few years back and I knew Ashton would love it. The dogs compete in distance jumping into a large pool. They also had the frisbee/trick dogs out doing shows and a bunch of other pet things at a large park. Ashton loved it all and Gemma slept through most of it.
Her one "purchase" at the event was getting her face painted.
This was Gemma for most of the afternoon. Perks of taking a one week old baby.
Ashton loved watching the frisbee dogs do their tricks.
She ended up taking a nap while waiting for the final round of the jumps.

Action shot of a dog landing. Ashton really wants to train River to do this. Maybe in a couple years.
Easter came and went. Ashton went with Joseph on the annual campout to Huntsville. Someone in our area organizes a large camping trip (about 200+ people) every Easter weekend. It's been going on for about 30 years. I took Ashton last year but with a new baby and cold temperatures, we knew we couldn't all go as a family. Plus Tanner is a runner and we would constantly have to keep an eye on him. Ashton had a blast and I'm already counting the days until I can take her next year again.


Trying to figure out how to jump rope.
 


On Easter, we listened to General Conference and had some friends over for dinner. I made Easter outfits for the kids that they wore the week before. Tanner was stubborn and refused to wear his. So a brown shirt and pants worked for him.
Gemma was blessed on April 8th. It was a lovely blessing and Tanner even let me sit and listen to it. He is very active during church and we don't always get the luxury of listening to sacrament meeting. And Gemma cooperated by not crying for it.

 Joseph took the kids to the park one day and some kid left behind some dinosaurs. Tanner loves dinosaurs! He was one happy boy that day.
 We took the kids swimming and by "we," I mean Joseph did. I sat out with Gemma.

Tanner has no fear of water and loves to swim. He doesn't mind going under water and loves the water slides.
 Every year, the local wildlife refuge hosts a Migration Celebration. We went last year and loved it so we made sure we could go again this year.
Spraying water at targets
Dressing up before visiting the butterflies.

She tried to get as many as she could in her hands. I think she got six at one point.
Another activity was archery. We really enjoy the wide variety of activities at the event.

4.17.2018

Gemma at one month

I enjoyed doing the monthly posts with Ashton and Tanner. It is amazing how often I look back at them to remind myself of baby things. So to continue with Gemma, here is her one month update.

Weight: 8 lbs 4 oz at birth. Dropped to 7 lbs 13 oz at two days old. At one month,10 lbs 5 oz. Hooray for good weight gain! This is especially important with her heart defect. Weight gain is a sign that it's not getting worse.

Height: 21.5 inches at 1 month. She was 19 inches at birth.


Clothing Size: We moved her to 0-3 month clothes last week. When she stretches out, it seems she is already maxing out the length of the clothes. We'll see how long this size lasts.

Daily Schedule: Gemma is pretty predictable. She wakes up between 7 and 8 every morning, eats about every 2-3 hours, naps 3-4 times a day, and does terrific at night. She has slept through the night many times (which led to mastitis for me...). She has never woken up more than once a night since she was born. She goes to bed around 9 or 10 at night and wakes up between 4 and 6 to eat (if she wakes up). Then back to bed until morning. The last few nights, she's slept from 8-9pm to 7am! Maybe, just maybe, we got a kid who likes to sleep. Fingers crossed.

Total diapers we change daily: She seems to be a heavy wetter, which doesn't bode well for cloth but maybe she'll get better. We go through about 6-8 a day.

Total outfits we go through daily: Gemma hasn't had a single blowout yet so she typically wears the same outfit two days in a row. I'm lazy and only want to change her if absolutely necessary. After two days, I switch things up though.

Special Outings: Everywhere... with two older siblings, you don't get the luxury of keeping the baby home all the time. She's gone to Houston several times, library, stores, doctors, church, etc.

Firsts: First everything... she's taken one bath for the whole month (I promise we wipe her down other times). It's tricky because we can't bathe all three at the same time so the idea of doing two rounds of baths sounds miserable and unnecessary.

Eating: She doesn't spit up like the others did, which is nice. My plan was to pump for her as I wanted more freedom with my church calling as well as being able to take Ashton and Tanner out more. But she's so cute and a great eater so I couldn't say no to her. So we're nursing again but we do try to have her take a bottle at least once a day. She does alright with that.

Heart Update: I figured we will be receiving heart updates a lot this year. Here's a little background into Gemma's heart and the defect. No defects were detected during the pregnancy. At birth, a pediatrician examined her in the hospital and detected no issues. We saw our pediatrician two days later and again, no issues were seen/heard. Then, we did a one week check up with the pediatrician and she detected a heart murmur. She referred us to a pediatric cardiologist to have it examined and determined what type of murmur it was. Typically, most children grow out of their murmurs as they are almost always one of two types (ASD or VSD). We headed to the cardiologist two weeks later and discovered Gemma's murmur is NOT one of those two types. It is a type of murmur that is not present at birth but becomes apparent over the first few weeks of life. It's called pulmonary valve stenosis. One of her heart valves doesn't open all the way. This defect can be mild, moderate, or severe. Gemma's defect falls into the moderate category. These defects can worsen in a child up to about one year of age and after that, the defect will remain the same. However, they don't improve or go away. We will see the cardiologist about every 8-12 weeks for the first year or so to monitor and do a repeat Echo. If it doesn't worsen, then we are good to go. If it worsens to the point of "severe," then we discuss surgery. The surgery to repair the valve is done by a balloon pump/dilator through the femoral artery so we're not looking at open heart surgery. That's reassuring. The only long-term effect of this murmur is she will be considered high risk for pregnancy when/if she chooses that later on. The increased blood volume and stress on the heart needs to be monitored throughout the pregnancy but should not cause complications to her or a baby. Her next cardiology appointment is in early June so we'll have more information then. I will admit, all that time studying for anatomy in college is helping a ton at these appointments. It helps having a basic knowledge of the heart when the doctor is explaining things to me.

Sibling love: The big kids love her and ask to hold Gemma a lot. Ashton likes waking her up in the morning and is very sweet to Gemma. Tanner likes giving her kisses, touching her toes, and holding her. Aside from that, Ashton complains about getting less attention so we're trying to deal with that the best we can. Joseph is still taking paternity leave with a couple half days each week. That helps some. I think she is used to leaving Tanner at home whereas now, Tanner comes with her a lot.

Overall, Gemma is a very chill baby. She doesn't love being put down (in swing, bouncer, bed, etc) and prefers to be held. But we are thoroughly enjoying that. All it takes is one look at Ashton or Tanner and we are reminded that before too long, Gemma will be climbing, jumping, and talking back to us.


Monthly Pictures:

Content to sleep wherever and whenever.



3.26.2018

Gemma is here!

After a much longer pregnancy than anticipated, Gemma has arrived. Ashton and Tanner arrived between 37 and 38 weeks so everyone, including my doctor, felt this baby would follow suit. Nope! Born right around 40 weeks!

It was a huge blessing to have her wait a little longer. Due to Joseph's work schedule, we knew it would be extremely difficult to have a newborn plus have him working his turnaround as he would be very limited in vacation/paternity leave. Gemma arrived the week after his long hours stopped. And his mom was here already as we thought the baby would arrive early. His mom was able to watch the kids for us while we were at the hospital.

Here's her birth story. Mainly so I don't forget the details during the fuzzy, sleep-deprived newborn stage.

I had been to the labor and delivery unit around 37 weeks with dehydration from a nasty stomach bug. I was having contractions there but with lots of fluids and medicine, they were able to stop them. This was nothing new. From about 36 weeks on, I would go to bed every night with contractions and then wake up in the morning feeling fine. Every day I thought, "tonight could be it!" It was a long four weeks of thinking that!

On March 14, I woke up around 3 or 4am with contractions ten minutes apart. They were painful enough where I had to work through them. When Joseph woke up around 6:30, they were about seven minutes apart but I told him to head to work as I wasn't sure this was the real deal. By about 9:30, they were five minutes apart so I decided to get a hold of Joseph and have him head home. But I couldn't reach him. I tried everything I could to contact him (aside from calling the emergency number) and he was stuck in meetings so couldn't answer. By 11am, I got desperate as the contractions were getting closer together and harder to breathe through. I called the emergency number at Dow and got in touch. He headed home and we went straight to the hospital. Laboring at home with a four and two year old is no fun either. I didn't want to tell Ashton what was going on in case the contractions fizzled out. So they kept asking for snacks and fun things as I'm struggling through pain. Finally around 11am, I decided it was time for a movie as a special treat.

They examined me at noon and I was 6 cm dilated so they admitted me. That was exciting as I've never made it that far along before. With Ashton, I was not even a cm dilated and with Tanner I was at a 3. My doctor was already in the hospital so he came to my room. When he came ten minutes later, I was at a 7 and they were doing everything they could to hurry up and get me an epidural. To receive an epidural at our hospital, you have to receive IV fluids and have blood work done. This takes time obviously. The nurses and doctor weren't sure I had enough time to do all this but I desperately urged them to try and hurry it along. The doctor felt if I wanted to forego pain meds, he could break my water and I would be at 10 in no time.

I really wanted the epidural so asked him to wait. He gave me some anti-nausea medicine which knocked me out between the contractions. Looking back, I wish I would have known more about this medicine before giving them the okay to administer it. It was really strong and I could barely answer questions to nurses between contractions. I appreciated the "break" between contractions but felt way too out of it for my liking. It did help the nausea as I felt I was going to throw up all the time.

Once the anesthesiologist could start the epidural process, I was at 8 cm. It took a few tries to get a good placement. Then the doctor broke my waters and about 30 minutes later, it was time to push. Baby girl was pretty high so it took a little longer than it did with Tanner but nothing like it did with Ashton. Once Gemma was born, the doctor thought she was over nine pounds. She cried a little bit and then was calm.

After about an hour, they took her and weighed her. Eight pounds, 4 ounces and 19 inches long. Bigger than Tanner by two ounces and bigger than Ashton by a pound. It's probably a good thing she hung on a little longer than her siblings as she would have been a tad smaller.

We've been home just over a week now and I wish I could pause time. She is so little and sweet. She doesn't talk back or make huge messes. And she's very easy to entertain. Gemma seems sleepier than our other two but maybe that's just our lack of memory. She doesn't fuss much and is a great eater. We're happy she's here! I'm happy to be much smaller and back in my normal clothes again. I was so excited to pack up maternity clothes and put that bin away for a long time.

Ashton is thrilled to have a baby sister. Tanner likes to point to her and say, "Baby" or "Sister" and then he continues on with his life. He is a little clingy to me but not a huge difference. I'm grateful Joseph has lots of paternity leave over the next few weeks. He'll be working half days a bunch, which is a lot of help to me. The big kids also have preschool until mid-May so that gives me a little bit of time to finish out teaching this semester. We're so happy to have sweet little Gemma in our family!


Our birthday cake tradition for Gemma.

3.18.2018

Pre-Baby Fun

Prior to Gemma's arrival, we had some fun things happen around our house.
Just past 37 weeks here. Last pregnancy picture I took.

Every year, the wards in our town host a "Back to Beef" activity. After the holidays, we go back to eating beef (after eating turkey and ham for the holidays) by having a huge lunch at a member's property. The night before, people can camp out while they smoke the meat. The property is on the river so there's fishing, canoeing, 4-wheelers, trampoline, tire swings, and lots of other fun things to do. Joseph and Ashton camped again this year and had a blast. Tanner and I went out the morning of the activity and played around a lot. It was wonderful to only have Tanner at home that morning as he slept until 8:45am. We enjoyed getting dirty and eating lots of yummy food.



Joe had his turnaround, which meant he worked from about 4 or 5am to about 7pm every day for four weeks. He got one Saturday off, which was nice. He won't have another one until next spring but that is one is scheduled for about 8 weeks. The nice part is that it is planned so far ahead so I can prepare myself mentally and physically for long days and weeks. We were just grateful Gemma held off until after the turnaround ended by a couple of days. The kids and I enjoyed a lazy few weeks with easy meals, ice cream nights, and a few extra family movie nights.
They're definitely getting better at playing together.
Picking flowers together.
I organized another trip to the local fire department this spring and the kids loved it. Ashton and Tanner enjoyed spraying the water and checking out the fire equipment.




There was a father daughter dance on Valentine's day for our mutual activity at church. Ashton couldn't wait to go and spend the night dancing with Daddy. Tanner enjoyed dancing with a bunch of the young women as well.
Best picture I have. Someone was taking pictures for the night but I haven't seen those yet.